The Blogging Advise that made me almost quit blogging

Sounds pretty melodramatic, right? Well, while I might have a slight penchant for melodrama,

Let me start this off by saying that I 100% believe this advise was given as a way to encourage better content, which I think we all can appreciate. But this advise made me question everything.

What is this advise, you ask?

Stop posting diary-like, Day-in-the-life type posts, unless you have already have a large following.

I know what your thinking. Well, that advise DOES make sense Heather! I mean, why would people care about what you do in a day or what you did over the weekend. The real key to being successful at blogging is to post shareable, quality content, right?

Well, it is and it isn’t! I think it all depends on your blogging goals and why you started your blog in the first place.

Yes, we all need to take the time to reassess our goals (true for both blogging AND LIFE), but it also helps to remember where we started from.

I started this blog for a few different reasons:

  • 1.) I was a stay-at-home mom, and while I love it, it can be very isolating to have no one to talk to except a toddler. I wanted and needed a community.
  • 2.)I wanted to share healthy recipes. I love to cook and create interesting/healthy recipes.
  • 3.) I wanted to share my experience with infertility.

Now, over the course of the past year I think I’ve held on to my goals pretty well. HOWEVER, I’ve felt my enthusiasm for blogging waning a little lately.

I’m hesitant to post a recipe because my pictures are less than stellar.

And on that note, I’m hesitant to post a recipe because I haven’t made a ‘great pinnable image’.

We don’t do anything very exciting over the weekends (read: WE HAVE A TODDLER) and I always think, well ‘Who actually cares that I went grocery shopping and taught BODYPUMP?’

Do you see what’s missing from the 2 thoughts above? Here’s a hint: It’s the COMMUNITY ASPECT!

Maybe I’m not creating awesome shareable content everyday of the week, but I love connecting with you guys. And when I post random aspects about our day I’m at least posting something!

I also like to see a snapshot of where our lives our at this particular point. Matilda will only be 2 and a half for so long, and this little blogging journal gives me a way to remember that.

My whole point in saying this is, it’s your blog. Post what you want WHEN you want. If you want to share recipes with less than beautiful, pinnable images., awesome do that. But if you just want to share a Day in the life post or some random Thinking out Loud Post, do it! Those are my favorite to read on other blogs.

Just post. Post often. And post what you want to!!

Thanks Amanda for letting me Think out loud today.

I am a thirty-something wife, mother, and former English teacher on a life-long journey for balance. I love writing, reading, cooking, baking, fitness in all its forms, my wonderful husband, and my adorable daughter.

Comments 21

  1. You can always count on me to come read whatever you post! I love day in the life posts too, and if I like the blogger then i enjoy them even more.
    I think sharing personal experiences can be a great way to relate to others and inspire them. Both very good things!
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  2. There are way too many standard- and cheesy-sounding, potentially overused things to say – which yes, is probably not “correct” according to xyz’s rules, either – but: blogging for yourself should be the only rule to ever follow. I wrote a post about that recently and it’s what I remind myself of regularly. The minute I don’t follow it anymore I become inauthentical and that’s just … no. I write the blog I want to read and if that’s what somebody else enjoys, too, it’s awesome. Don’t stress yourself out too much – in addition to the stress of being a mum, that is. I think Matilda will be really happy to have this blog as a digital diary/mum’s recipe book/whatever you make it once she’s old enough to read it.
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  3. I go to those “big famous recipe blogs” to look for recipes. But I don’t get a sense of community with them. They don’t know me. And that’s fine – so recipes is all I go to them for. I’ve been so surprised since entering the blog world how much I love others’ day to day life / experience posts. Its just really nice – especially when you are feeling lonely – to feel like someone else is inviting you into their life and that you therefore have a sense of community. We need to share and it is sharing the small parts of life that can give you the most warmth. I think the term “blog” originated from more of a journal mindset anyways – so its yours. Alllll yours.
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  4. I DEFINITELY think it depends on your goals! I truly enjoy writing advice/tutorial posts more than day-in-the-life posts (uh, toddler+ newborn = I sat on my butt all day nursing a baby and then tried chasing a toddler around while nursing said newborn with a pillow strapped to me. Not very exciting ahhah!) That works for me, since it fits my goals of being able to share , help and encourage others while earning a small supplementary income. But sometimes I need to do a post with no guidelines – no worrying about sharability or SEO or if anyone gives a care, because in the end, I blog for me, not followers!
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  5. I LOVE what you post, because you share real life Heather. My pictures of food are not stellar, but I’m learning, and that’s part of the journey. I love sharing your journey, so as long as you are led to continue, I’m going to continue following along!
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  6. I’m standing up and clapping right now. To add to what you’re saying about the whole community thing, humans are made for connection. Relatability (I made up that word) is EVERYTHING especially to stay at home moms because our job is thankless and isolating. I need to be able to see you doing the same shit I do, feeling the same shit I do, and learning from it, otherwise I’d be like, ummm… I don’t relate to Heather. I NEED YOU. So, there.
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  7. AMEN TO ALL OF THIS. I got caught up in it all too. And I gave up blogging for a month… now I’m back and I’m going to post what I want and when I want. If other people don’t want to read it anymore, yes, I’ll be sad to see them go, but I always want to stay true to myself. I’m thrilled to read this post, Heather! I LOVE your personal posts so please keep them coming!!

    I’ll be around regardless of what you post πŸ™‚
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  8. I love to get a little glimpse of your daily life. I feel like I get to see a different side of you and I love it ( and all the adorable Matilda pictures). Please don’t stop πŸ™‚

  9. Aw, Heather, I don’t always get to read every post or make a comment, but I’m glad you’re still blogging.
    I *get* that piece of advice, but I also think you’re right that we blog for ourselves and however the heck we want to.
    I don’t personally write a lot of DITL posts because I feel my life is sooooo boring.
    I enjoy reading those types of posts though, otherwise you don’t really know who is on the other side of the screen, you know?
    Im trying to find a good balance of personal mixed with the other because, while I blog primarily for my own outlet and connections, I’d like to try and earn a little extra $ one day. Just being honest πŸ™‚
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  10. I totally agree. These are our blogs so we shouldn’t feel restricted. I get what the author is trying to say but I like seeing a glimpse of people’s day-to-day sometimes, it makes me feel more of a personal connection. I actually mean to do it more often but don’t always have the time (plus my life is not always that exciting lol).

  11. this is such a great post. you’re right – no two blogs are the same, so if you want to post diary like posts, go for it!! πŸ™‚ at the end of the day, it’s your blog, and should bring you joy! happy friday! xox

  12. I found myself trying to follow the “blogging rules” for awhile and then said screw it! I’m writing what I want and commenting on what I like and eventually I will find those like minded people to follow along in my little world. I too am a stay at home mom and I think it’s not only a representation of your little one’s life, but also how you progress as a mom. Enjoy!
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  13. Yes, yes, yes. I get the most engagement (and often the most enjoyable engagement, if that makes sense) from random thoughts and day-in-the-life posts. Those are what make people relate to me. I love cooking and baking, and I really do want to be able to share my life stories along with delicious recipes that people make and fall in love with, but right now… I really can’t make recipe development my priority (hi, still attending college full-time). I blog because the people and the connections are so great, and I see that most on “diary” posts. So I’ll keep writing ’em, and I’m glad you will, too!
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  14. Don’t ever quit if you love it! do what you love, that’s the life mantra I’m living by. πŸ™‚ it has helped me a LOT, which for me meant not blogging and spending way less time on social media, but hey we are all special and different! and we all love different things. love you!

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